Sometimes the line between being right and wrong is very fine, other times, it's nearly impossible to distinguish the two. Yet again, other times... it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong. It matters how you carry yourself through it. Learning from these situations is an essential part of growing. Evolution is a painful process, but a necessary one on this life journey.
It is so hard to hold your head up and look people in the eye after not conducting yourself very well through something like that. It's even harder when both parties are wrong and only one party has taken such a step as to admit their fault. It can be a very lonely place. I have never been very patient when it comes to these types of things.
This is not an excuse, however, to act out without apology - even if I feel I reacted the only way I could have in that situation. I can admit this, however humiliating, but many people lack the ability to ever say they are sorry. That, to me, is one of the worst human qualities on the planet. Friends, don't be this way. Ever. People think never saying they're sorry makes them look strong, but it really is a big, honking, blinking sign of weakness. really, when you look at it like this, it is silly for me to ever feel weak when I have little shame in writing this for all to see. My faults. We all have them. Or as I heard recently from someone, my "needs work". Here they are. I am human. Hope it helps someone else's evolution process.
The whole thing is that love - true love - requires compassion, forgiveness and understanding. Eventually and ultimately, these elements have to come up when things go sour. But if those actions are not reciprocated, it breaks the connection needed to sustain whatever it is: friendship, family relationship, romantic relationship... etc. And folks, if those actions are not reciprocated, what you've got is not love. Remember that.
